Today is my birthday. I turned 28… and, aside from picking up my free latte from Starbucks and getting a good workout in with my husband, all I want to do today is spend time with my little family. I spent the past week pondering over what I should do for my birthday. I figured I needed to redeem myself from last year. (Hint: I was 6 weeks pregnant with my first taste of morning sickness at Ted’s Montana Grill in the rain – because, I was determined to get some cedar-planked salmon on my birthday, dammit.)
The truth is – simplicity has won me over for the past few years. I don’t need to conjure up some elaborate plan with some elaborate outfit for some elaborate restaurant with people who likely only remembered my birthday from a memory on Time Hop. What really matters to me is spending quality time with myself and the people I love so much.
27 was a tough year for me, honestly. Aside from spending the majority of the year with a baby bump and back pain – I struggled with major friendship changes, family ups-and-downs, body image, and transitioning from a wife to a mother. The only thing that remained stable was my marriage and my job… but, throughout all of these challenging times, I learned quite a bit of simple lessons about life… and, myself.
- You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the orchard… and, there will still be someone who doesn’t like peaches.
- If distance and time don’t change a friendship, hold on to that person for dear life.
- Coffee tastes better when it is iced… on purpose.
- You’re a writer; you write everything down. Stop trying to download apps or put notes in your phone – you always go back to the pen and paper.
- Unless you’re getting a mani/pedi alone in a dark room with a reclining chair, a bath robe, and an eye mask – which I actually did right after I had Leo… thanks, hubby – getting your nails done is more of a chore than a treat.
- For God’s sake, stop using your credit card.
- Amazon Prime, Target, and Publix – end of story. You don’t really need to go anywhere else to buy anything.
- Some “old school” things will always be embraced – paper records, writing checks, and turning the pages on an actual book.
- There is no need to spend $25.00 on mascara when the $7.99 one gives you the same results.
- Binge-watching TV shows with your husband always wins over what ever other plans you thought you made.
- One glass of wine – that’s all you need.
- Invest in a good hat for the countless bad hair days in your present and future.
- Becoming a mother doesn’t define who you are; motherhood only brought out the features in you that you already had below the surface.
- Choosing to do go to an event out of obligation is doing a disservice to yourself and the person who invited you. If you don’t want to go, don’t.
- Nobody needs to know all of the moves you make for yourself or your family. Get shit done in silence – the shock factor from the other end is worth it.
- Less is more – less things, less friends, less money.
- Letting your gas tank go all the way down to E creates an unnecessary level of anxiety when you clearly have money in your pocket to fill it up.
- Pick your battles. Sometimes, being the last person to respond is worse than just saying nothing.
- Coconut oil is the only staple you need in your bathroom.
- Don’t worry about anything; pray about everything.
- Only keep the clothes that make you feel good… and, if that means you’re constantly wearing the same shirt or pants, so be it.